First of all, congratulations to the future daddy! Expecting a baby is the hardest and the most pleasurable wait you’ll ever have in your life. You may find it overwhelming adjusting to new responsibilities and expectations at first, but you’ll have plenty of time to get it right! Pregnancy is not a walk in the park. Your wife or partner will experience different symptoms in this period. Here are some tips for you to take better care of her.
Morning sickness is a symptom of pregnancy which involves nausea or vomiting. In spite of the name, it can occur at any time during the day. According to some researches, approximately 70%-80% of all pregnant women suffer from morning sickness. Morning sickness can have a negative effect on quality of life.
However, there are something you can do to help your loved one ease the symptom.
- You can start by preparing regular and nutritious meals for her. Eating little and often can help keep her sugar levels on an even keel; and having an empty stomach can make morning sickness worse. It would be better if you could provide some high-protein foods instead of fatty and spicy ones. Besides, since cooking smells may bring on feelings of nausea, she may prefer cold meals than hot ones.
- Because some strong smells can make the symptom worse, you can prepare a cut lemon for her to sniff or grow some rosemary at home, which can help to ease her nausea.
- You can do something interesting with her, such as doing puzzles, watching television, playing cards, going for short walks or whatever she likes, which can keep her busy and take her mind off the feelings of nausea.
Mood swings are common for most women during pregnancy because of stress, fatigue and hormonal changes. And, becoming a parent can bring them mixed feelings about what’s ahead. Reactions to these changes vary from person to person. Some future mommy experience heightened emotions, both positive and negative; while others feel more depressed or anxious. Something that might not bother her ordinarily might make her angry or break down in tears now, and some pregnant women even feel guilty because they can’t control their emotions as well as before.
Here are some tips for you to deal with your wife or partner’s mood swings during pregnancy.
- Remember one thing: it’s better for her to express her feelings than suppressing them. Otherwise, this state could grow into chronic depression.
- Listen to her. She might have a lot of worries and fears now—Will labor and delivery go well? Will the baby be healthy? Will she be a good mom? Let her talk to you and share these thoughts and fears. Always stay positive, encourage and support her, and tell her she can do it.
- Don’t take her outbursts personally. They are, after all, completely out of control. Remember, it’s the hormones talking, yelling, crying and attacking you for no obvious reason (so when you say black and she says white, go with white). Your being understanding and supportive will make her calmer and grateful.
Waist & Back Pain
Belly grows during the pregnancy can make your wife or partner feel discomfort. She can feel every pull and twinge from the weight of her heavy belly which makes it hard for her to do things without a little extra support. Therefore, have your wife ever told you she felt painful of her back and waist before? And Have you ever tried to look for something that can reduce her soreness? Here are the tips that can really help your pregnant wife or partner.
- Maternity support belt. Wearing a maternity support belt can help support your wife’s lower back and waist while she is doing daily activities.
- Choose some suitable exercises for your wife like swimming, gymnastics and so on.
- Appropriate bed. Please do not let your wife sleep on the mattress which is too soft; otherwise, it will increase the waist and back pain.
Optimal Fetal Positioning
Vertical separation of the abdominal muscles is called diastasis. It is common among pregnant women. However, separation of these muscles can cause a pendulous uterus while the weight of the baby increases. The ideal angle for a full term fetus falls between 55-60 degrees. Is your wife’s belly on the ideal angle for a full term fetus? If not, here are the tips that can help your wife or partner.
- Considering to wear a prenatal abdominal support garment like maternity support belt at the beginning and for the full duration or the last trimester of pregnancy.
- Let your wife or partner lie on the bed and lift her waist up (put the cushion or pillow under her waist), and let her hip lift up to 30-50 cm. 10-15 minutes for once and once a day.
Swelling (Edema) during pregnancy
Swelling (or Edema) in the hands, feet and ankles is very common (especially during summer). Changes in blood chemistry cause some fluid to shift into pregnant women’s tissues, and by the third trimester, the weight of your wife’s uterus puts so much pressure on her pelvic veins and the vena cava. You can do something to help your loved one deal with swelling during pregnancy.
- Please do not let your wife stand for long periods.
- Please preparesome comfortable shoes for your wife, avoiding high heels if possible.
- Please take your wife to rest or swim in a pool.
- Please use cold compresses on her swollen areas.
- Please encourage her to drink water, which helps flush the body and reduce water retention.
- Please cook with minimize sodium (salt) intake for your wife and avoid adding additional salt to meals.
Heartburn is a condition in which acid backs up from the stomach into the esophagus. It is a common condition to pregnant woman. Follow these tips can help relieve the pain.
- Eat less while frequently. Try to change her eating habit into 5-6 small meals a day instead of 3 large meals.
- Wear loose and fitting clothes. Prepare loose clothes for her ensuring that the clothes will put no pressure on her abdomen.
- Slow down while eating. Pay attention to her each meal ensure that she finish it slowly. It can also help avoid overeating.
Leg cramps are very common during the pregnancy. The mineral imbalance and the pressure of the enlarged uterus will cause the problem. As a husband, you can follow these steps:
- Pay attention to her diet. Reduce the proportion of processed foods on the daily meal.
- Stretch her calf muscles regularly during the day and several times before she goes to bed.
- Whenever you guys sit down, eat dinner, or watch TV, rotate her ankles and wiggle her toes for several times.
- Offer her a warm bath before bed or warm her muscle with a heating pad.
There are too many to suffer from during the pregnancy, so it may be a hard time at night to a pregnant woman. Apart from the pains mentioned above, you can also prepare these things to help this problem.
- Extra pillows. Pillows can be used to support both her tummy and back. A pillow between the legs can help support the lower back and make sleeping on your side easier. Some specific types of pillows include the wedge-shaped pillow and the full-length body pillow.
- A good book or relaxing Read her a good book or play some relaxing music at bedtime can help calm her mind and get asleep easier.
- Sleep aid sound machine. Circular natural soundsthat gradually vary in volume can help block out the noises in our brain so that it will be easier to fall asleep.
- Wake up light alarm clock. Waking up is the last step of a whole sleeping procedure. Wake her up with the warm and soft sunrise simulation light clock instead of a sudden sound clock.
Pregnancy is a great balance in life — it brings out the worst mood swings in a wife and the best level of tolerance in a husband. Becoming a dad will take you through many twists and turns. You’ll slowly learn new things about life. Remember: you are instrumental not supplemental! You might have lots of worries and fears now, but I’m sure that your partner and baby will be proud of having such a considerate husband and awesome dad.